And Then There Was Zoey: How a Baby Surprisingly Didn’t Change My Financial Outlook (Yet)
Posted by Cap on August 6, 2012 |
Two months ago something slightly interesting happened:
My wife gave birth to our healthy baby daughter.
The funny part was we were wholly unprepared for having our daughter on that particular day (but lets face it, estimates are estimates). On that Tuesday morning, we were at the doctor’s office for my wife’s weekly checkup (she was already estimated to due a week ago), when the doctor handed us the admittance order to the hospital.
“Yep. You’re 3-4cm dilated. You can head to the hospital now.”
“Uh, come again?”
And the only thing the both of us could think of at that time, as we head towards the hospital, was that we forgot to eat breakfast that morning. Luckily I’ve been traveling around with the overnight bag in the trunk of the car since forever, so I was able to munch on some much needed calories while the wife went on a liquid diet order immediately upon arrival at the hospital (sucks for her).
About 12 hours later, our baby daughter was born into the world. Like most baby, Zoey was pretty pissed about leaving her comfy home, but I suspect she’ll eventually come to terms with this arrangement.
A Pregnancy Can Cost You Financially if Unprepared
About 9-10 months ago when we found out, the first thought that popped into our mind was how much the pregnancy will cost us. If you don’t have insurance (or insurance with maternity coverage) prior to having a baby, things will get MIGHTY expensive. WebMD estimates prenatal care cost at around $2,000; with hospital cost anywhere around $6,000 to $15,000, depending on if you’re doing a vagina birth with no complication or a cesarean section.
We recently received our itemized explanation of benefits from Anthem Blue Cross and here’s the breakdown of the cost involved:
- Anesthesia – $3,600. Insurance paid $1,292 as it was a network participating provider. One of those funky “discounts.”
- OBGYN – $3,500. Insurance paid our doctor $1,306.27 for stopping by at 1:30 AM to annoy my daughter from her house.
- Hospital Stay – $11,120.13. Insurance paid $4,863. This was for a three night stay in a private room, which was helpful for the first difficult 3 days.
- Pediatrician evaluation – $250. We had to cover this out of pocket as we accidentally choose a pediatrician that wasn’t covered under our insurance plan.
Edit for Clarification: Insurance took care of most of the cost (expect for the pediatrician visit & genetics lab work as I noted). Basically insurance sends you these scary-looking “NOT A BILL” invoice which details the services you receive, how much the service providers bill to the insurance company and how much the insurance company actually paid the service providers. Sorry for any confusion.
Just to be comprehensive, here are the associated cost from prenatal care:
- OBGYN – $700. Insurance paid the doctor $383.82. Billed $100, pay $10. The world of health insurance often escapes me. There was a good program from Marketplace called “The battle over billing codes” that’s worth a listen for those not aware of the myriad of craziness involved with our health insurance system.
- Microbiology Lab – $500. Again, insurance paid $88.48 for a service that “cost” $500. Still can’t tell who’s trolling who.
- Urology Lab – $309. Insurance paid the same lab $67.17 from a bill of $309.
- Genetic Disease Lab – $162. We had to pay for this out of pocket for the Genetic Disease screening program in CA via the Department of Health.
The cost for our uncomplicated delivery in the hospital was billed at $18,220 (!!). We were able to choose a relatively good hospital with great staff and decent accommodation (though to be honest accommodation wasn’t too high on the priority list). The prenatal care, comparatively, was a lot more affordable at $1,671 with slightly more than half of the would-be cost to lab works.
As you can see, the lion-share of the cost was associated to the last three day of pregnancy. For those without maternity coverage insurance, your financial options becomes staggering difficult, with our total cost above of $19,891 reaching nearly half of an American’s median annual household income — and we haven’t even stepped out of the hospital yet to reach these cost.

Expenses After D-Day
You can run some quick numbers via lots of online calculations, but these numbers are good ballparks to think about after your baby shows up in the world:
- Feeding cost – $0 to $105 a month. Depending on if you’re breastfeeding or going with formula, you’ll be spending some good chunk of change. (Breast pump cost below)
- Clothing - $0 to $60 a month. This is an extremely conservative estimate base on if you have hand-me-downs from families or you can live with 2-4 sets of outfits for the kiddo. She’s going to grow out of it before you know it anyways.
- Baby Gear – $200 to $420. From infant car seat (a must), to a basic stroller frame or a play yard. How you spend this portion depends on your immediate needs.
- Nursery – $400 to $700. You’ll need a crib or bassinet to deposit the kid in, plus a changing table if you wish (we just ended up changing her where ever is convenience with changing pad underneath her). Lots of other stuff such as baby monitor if your baby is in another room, bedding and blankets, etc.
- Feeding & breastfeeding supplies - $400. This is the fun part where I received lots of interesting educations in. From pumps to bottles, your spending will depend heavily on how you decide to feed your kid, which is always a personal decision.
- Bathing & Misc Items – $50 to $300. Child proofing supplies when your baby reach that age, assortments of pacifiers if you decide to let your newborn use it, heck even birth announcement will set you back a bit (hah, my blog post is free).
Expect to spend anywhere from to $1,050 to $2,000 in the immediate aftermath. In the grand scheme of things, this isn’t a lot of money but its still a chunk of money if you’re unprepared. If you were fortunate enough to have a baby shower, you can probably save a little bit here and there through gifts and help from friends and family. While I haven’t closely tally-up all the numbers, I suspect my wife and I have spent about ~$1,200 on the initial needed items.
Thus far, we haven’t spent any outrageous amount of money due to the baby, but lets be frank, raising a child is NOT cheap. Depending on your region, a child will easily cost you more than a quarter million dollars by the time they reach 18. If you live in the more expensive states… well, you better start saving money now.
So while your initial cost is manageable if you have insurance (key factor here), having a baby can be surprisingly affordable (wow that felt stupid to write) — the real cost, of course, is after the fact. But hey, supposedly having an offspring is swell and all of this will be worth it one day.
Jury’s still out!
We’ll revisit the topics above in more details for future posts. For now, here’s a picture of our daughter showing Tyler Clary how a backstroke is really done.


August 6th, 2012 at 8:12 am
Congratulations, Daddy Cap and Mrs. Cap, and welcome, little Zoey.
Better prepare by polishing the rifle now; you have a blooming beauty on your hands!
August 6th, 2012 at 8:19 am
Congratulations! Zoey is gorgeous!
Question: What were your total out of pocket expenses? Did you have to pay the difference between the cost and what your insurance paid?
I, not having any children and rarely going to the doctor, did not realize childbirth was something not fully covered. How does anyone just have $10k on hand to pay for that?
August 6th, 2012 at 9:05 am
@Jennifer: Oh dear. I kept trying to not think about the eventual need to arm myself.
@Dee: Woops Didn’t clarify well there in the post after a re-read, insurance took care of ALL the cost involved, only out-of-pocket cost was the lab work really. They send you these scary looking “NOT A BILL” invoice, and basically shows you how much the service was billed to them and how much they actually paid the hospital/doctor. A lot of insurances may not have maternity coverage packaged in already (which wouldn’t cover pregnancy), so its good to check before you decide to take the plunge, as it is consider a pre-existing “condition.”
If insurance didn’t cover, we’d definitely have had to dig a bit deep.
August 6th, 2012 at 10:13 am
My wife had our first baby (cash baby) 18 months ago in Phoenix, AZ. I am self employed and our insurance only covers emergencies during pregnancy after a high deductible.
Our total out of pocket cash paid was $6,200. If we added anesthesia it would have been another $1,100.
If you take the “insurance paid” amounts in the story, then that is the more reasonable out of pocket expense. A little planning and prepayment will save you $$$$.
August 6th, 2012 at 12:46 pm
@Cap
Thanks for clarifying! I had no idea.
August 6th, 2012 at 3:37 pm
*blink* I feel like I missed a few steps there.
Congratulations, she’s adorable!
August 6th, 2012 at 3:49 pm
@Revanche oh yeah I got married. earlier this year. it was all very rush-rush (slightly obvious reason). haha
@Mac: self-employed here too and was ready to shell out around the same amount too, but luckily wife was able to qualify through some help from the doctor’s office + insurance due to her previous employment (was within the period of pregnancy after she quit).
August 7th, 2012 at 10:55 am
i wonder why pregnancy and birth is covered at all, since it’s totally unnecessary. guess it falls into the same category as viagra. seems like it ought to be up there with cosmetic surgery. if you want it, you pay for it.
August 15th, 2012 at 9:36 am
Whoa, congrats! Glad to see that you’re still around!
August 19th, 2012 at 9:52 am
Slightly interesting??! She’s beautiful! Yes, birth is expensive especially when insurance doesn’t pay for everything. It can lead to real headaches but the end is totally worth it.
August 22nd, 2012 at 9:16 pm
Congratulations on the marriage and the baby! Now I know (some of) what you’ve been up to. ;)
September 14th, 2012 at 7:50 pm
I’m having my first baby in February. Just wanted to share…the cost of breastfeeding equipment (including pumps) will be covered by health insurance starting in Jan 2013! Yay! The good ones are $200-400.
September 22nd, 2012 at 1:18 pm
Congratulations, your daughter is a beauty. While I think you are probably jumping the gun declaring that having a child is not too costly, in the end the cost of the child isn’t the main consideration.
I expect you’ll gain much more than you have to give, having a child only gets better and better.
Congrats!
November 1st, 2012 at 3:58 pm
Wonderful news and beautiful daughter! Thanks goodness for insurance. And I really like her name!
December 26th, 2012 at 7:29 am
Is this baby a new born baby doll
March 18th, 2013 at 5:18 pm
She’s adorable. Belated congrats!
March 31st, 2013 at 10:32 am
Congrats!
The non-insurance, complete package rate at our local midwife center is $4000, from prenatal to birth.
I had no drugs and was allowed to be discharged after 24 hours with my last birth, so even hospital bill can be lower than yours. (Insurance paid all but a $250 copay.) Plus, if you’re self-paying, aggressive negotiation cuts the bill to a fraction.
Next time, don’t go to the hospital just because she’s dilated. You can walk around 3cm dilated for DAYS. If you show up at the hospital like that and don’t go into labor in a couple of hours, they’ll induce, and that starts the medical cascade that can end in a very ugly way. Also, if you are in early labor, pick up food first, if you are hungry! :)